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  • yudhaarga 9:56 am on March 19, 2008 Permalink | Reply  

    16 Tools for Effective Parents (part 2) 


    6. Practice reflective listening. When you are working together with your youth to solve a problem,stop to summarize what he or she has said so your youth knows you have really heard. Resist the temptation to criticize or lecture.

    Example: When your daughter says, “I hate the way I look. Everything looks dumb on me,” you might say, “Sounds like you’re pretty frustrated over the way your clothes look on you.”

    7. Keep one-on-one time. Spending oneonone time alone with your son or daughter can be a special time for both of you. That time together can let your child know you really care.

    Example: Take turns with each child in the family for a special time. It could be going out for breakfast, playing a board game, or going for a hike or bike ride together.

    8. Use driving time to talk.

    Most parents of pre- and early teens spend time driving the child to lessons, ball games or shopping. Children may be more willing to open up in this environment than when they are at home.

    Example: On the way to basketball practice, say to your son or daughter, “Tell me about school today,”or ask about a favorite hobby.

     9. Talk about values. Use other opportunities, such as discussions about what happened at school, in the news, or on a TV show, to talk about your values. Don’t assume your children know what you believe and consider important.

    Example: After watching a TV program in which a character wrecked his car and the passenger with him was hurt, you might say, “This is an example of why we think it’s really important not to drink. How do you think the character could have handled the problem better?”

    10. Hold family meetings. Set a specific time each week with family members to set schedules, plan fun things to do together as a family, and deal with concerns.  Start with compliments and end with a snack or game.

    Example: A weekly family meeting, perhaps on Sunday evening, helps everyone get organized for the week. You might use the time to share good things that happened to family members during the past week or activities members are looking forward to. This is a good time to thank each other for specific tasks they have done for the family, as well as make plans for what needs to be done during the following week.Be sure to include something fun, too.

    Continued to part 3 …

    Source : Kimberly Greder (Iowa state University) from Positive Discipline A-Z: 1,001 Solutions to everyday Parenting Problems by J. Nelsen, L. Lott and H.S. Glenn

  • yudhaarga 5:27 am on March 18, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , effective, , parent, , positive,   

    16 Tools for effective parents (part 1) 

    Being the parent of a child between ages 10 and 14 is no easy task! Parents, as well as the children themselves, must get used to the youth’s rapidly changing bodies, mood swings, growing independence,and challenges to authority. No one trick or technique will work for every parent or with every young person.This fact sheet offers ideas to (a) help build positive relations between parents and youth, and to (b) deal with problems when they arise.

    Build a positive relationship

    1. Listen for feelings. When your child comes to you with a problem or when he or she expresses strong feelings, it helps to say something like, “Sounds like you’re feeling…” It helps him or her to know that you are trying to understand.

    Example: Your son comes home after school and says, “The teacher yelled at me today.” You might say, “Sounds like you were embarrassed.”

    2. Remember preteen and teen development. Your child is going through many changes. Growing independence and challenges to authority are normal. At this age, most youth want to be independent, spend more time with friends, and more time by themselves. Sassing and back talk are normal even though you will probably want to let your child know that it is unacceptable.

    Example: If it bothers you that your child doesn’t want to spend as much time with you, remember that this is normal and healthy. Occasionally, schedule time for you and your child, or the whole family, to have fun together.

    3. Notice good behavior. Make praise specific and frequent. Young people learn better from positive actions (encouragement and extra privileges) than from negative ones (punishment or losing privileges).

    Example: If your child does a good job mowing the lawn, you might say, “The lawn looks really good.You trimmed around the trees and put the mower away. Thanks for doing such a good job.”

    4. Give a reward. Use special privileges and one-on-one time to reward good behavior.

    Example: If your son has argued over chores in the past, but this week follows through and gets everything done, you might let him stay up later on the weekend, have a friend over, or take a trip with you for ice cream or a soda.

    5. Plan time for family fun. Time spent doing fun things together helps build a reserve of good feelings that can help you get through hard times. Let your child help plan family events and outings.

    Example: If you are planning a vacation, let your child order brochures and help decide where to stop and what to see.

    Continue to part 2…

    Source : Kimberly Greder (Iowa state University) from Positive Discipline A-Z: 1,001 Solutions to everyday Parenting Problems by J. Nelsen, L. Lott and H.S. Glenn

  • yudhaarga 2:31 am on March 18, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , personal career, survey, work   

    How to take a Personal Career Interest Survey ? 


    Most people don’t know enough about all their available options to make informed career decisions. To remedy that deficit, you’ll need to do some market research:

    1. Start by making a general list of your personal and professional interests. Don’t omit any options because of preconceived notions about a field or industry.

    2. Write down your number one interest and then consider it carefully. What is it about that area that most fascinates you? For example, a woman who loves cooking realized she’s particularly drawn to desserts because they appeal to both her sense of artistry and her sweet tooth.

    3. Explore your interest more deeply, by researching the following:

    Companies that produce related products or services

    Schools that teach related skills

    Types of jobs related to your interest

    Names of specific people who work in the field

    4. Set up an action plan—complete with realistic goals and timetables—to meet (or at least talk on the phone with) people who work in your targeted interest area. In your discussions, try to learn as much as possible about what these professionals are doing. Also ask for referrals to people working in related fields. After each meeting, take careful notes to consolidate your learning; then set new exploration goals.

    5. When you’ve completed your research, listen to your gut. Does pursuing your targeted field still seem to be an exciting idea? If so, figure out what steps you’ll have to take to become a qualified candidate in that field.

    6. If your answer is a more cautious “maybe,” determine what else you need to know to make an informed career decision. Then, make it your goal to get that data.

    7. If you decide that your top interest doesn’t translate into viable career options, return to your list to determine your second, third, and even fourth choices. Then repeat the exploratory process until you find a promising direction.

    8. If you’re still undecided after several rounds of this process, think more creatively about ways to combine your interests. The prospective pastry chef, for example, had a seemingly conflicting interest in weight management. By tying together her two interests,she developed a specialty in low-fat desserts.

    Source : How to be Happy at Work , By : Arlene .S Hirsch

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