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  • yudhaarga 7:49 am on May 9, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: believe, happy, secret   

    Don’t Believe Yourself too much 

    Believing in yourself means thinking you are a capable person, not that you will never make a mistake. Don’t think that because you are a talented person you cannot learn from others or you should never be criticized or others want to know how highly you think of yourself.

    A very rich fellow ran for governor of a Southern state not too long ago. He didn’t like taking directions from people. He was, after all, his own man. He had become very successful on his own, and he thought there was nothing useful anyone could teach him because he already knew everything he needed to know.
    Two things came out of this belief. One, people felt that he was full of himself, disagreeable, and not someone they particularly liked or trusted. And, two, when during a debate televised statewide he didn’t know the answer to how the state passed a budget, people felt like his pompous image was a phony mask
    covering up for the fact that he really wasn’t that capable. This man didn’t become governor or senator or anything else he ran for. He told people he was too capable to listen and learn. The people told him he was just incapable of listening and learning

    Source : David Niven Phd. The 100 Simple Secret of Happy People. 2000

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  • yudhaarga 7:38 am on May 7, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: happy, positive thinking   

    If you’re not sure, guest positively 

    Unhappy people take a situation in which they are not sure and come to a negative conclusion. For example, if they aren’t certain why another person is being nice, they assume that the person must have a hidden selfish agenda. Happy people take that same situation and guess the positive possibility, that is, that the person really is nice.

    Henry is a seventy-year-old man who always had a good word for his neighbors. He lived modestly in Arkansas in a small home with only a wood stove for heat. Over the years, Henry watched his home deteriorate steadily. But he was too old and had too little money to fix it up. One of his neighbors organized a group to virtually rebuild Henry’s house, giving it modern heat and plumbing. Henry was stunned by this. Why were all these people taking such an interest in him, in his house? He initially wondered, What did they stand to gain? Were they trying to change his house so that it would make their houses worth more?

    Any situation can be viewed as an act of selfishness, if that’s how you want to view it. Taking this perspective makes us cold,critical, and cynical. And there’s no way out of it, because a person
    we view negatively cannot do anything to improve our impression of them. We need to consider that our perspective on what motivates people can either be a source of comfort to us or a source of alarm.
    Henry’s ultimate conclusion: “These were just good peopledoing a good thing, and I thank them for it.”

    Source : David Niven Phd. The 100 Simple Secret of Happy People. 2000

     
  • yudhaarga 2:31 am on March 18, 2008 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , happy, personal career, survey, work   

    How to take a Personal Career Interest Survey ? 

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    Most people don’t know enough about all their available options to make informed career decisions. To remedy that deficit, you’ll need to do some market research:

    1. Start by making a general list of your personal and professional interests. Don’t omit any options because of preconceived notions about a field or industry.

    2. Write down your number one interest and then consider it carefully. What is it about that area that most fascinates you? For example, a woman who loves cooking realized she’s particularly drawn to desserts because they appeal to both her sense of artistry and her sweet tooth.

    3. Explore your interest more deeply, by researching the following:

    Companies that produce related products or services

    Schools that teach related skills

    Types of jobs related to your interest

    Names of specific people who work in the field

    4. Set up an action plan—complete with realistic goals and timetables—to meet (or at least talk on the phone with) people who work in your targeted interest area. In your discussions, try to learn as much as possible about what these professionals are doing. Also ask for referrals to people working in related fields. After each meeting, take careful notes to consolidate your learning; then set new exploration goals.

    5. When you’ve completed your research, listen to your gut. Does pursuing your targeted field still seem to be an exciting idea? If so, figure out what steps you’ll have to take to become a qualified candidate in that field.

    6. If your answer is a more cautious “maybe,” determine what else you need to know to make an informed career decision. Then, make it your goal to get that data.

    7. If you decide that your top interest doesn’t translate into viable career options, return to your list to determine your second, third, and even fourth choices. Then repeat the exploratory process until you find a promising direction.

    8. If you’re still undecided after several rounds of this process, think more creatively about ways to combine your interests. The prospective pastry chef, for example, had a seemingly conflicting interest in weight management. By tying together her two interests,she developed a specialty in low-fat desserts.

    Source : How to be Happy at Work , By : Arlene .S Hirsch

     
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